Sunday, September 18, 2005

‘Sometimes’ may cost us too much!

One of the best things in the world is when you find some one, or some people, who understand you so well that they can predict your actions, know what you’re going to say before you say it, and adjust their own behavior accordingly to avoid conflict. It makes it so easy for us to talk to them and share things with them because we know that no matter what, they’ll understand what we really mean – even if we end up not really saying it. Sometimes they get to know us so well that we, unfortunately, end up taking them for granted; we don’t put in the effort to try to understand/ accommodate them, as much as they do with us.

One of the worst things we can do is take someone we care about for granted. It’s so easy to just assume that they’ll always be there, because they always are.. to assume that they’ll understand our mood swings or negligence, because they always do… but unfortunately, we sometimes forget that they’re human too.. and as much as they love us, sometimes they get to a point where enough is enough.. where they feel underappreciated & devalued. So, even if they end up not walking away and giving up on us, it still doesn’t change the fact that we are hurting one/some of the few people who really knows us and appreciate us. Is it really worth it??

Why am I writing this? Simple; it’s happened to me and I’m sure I’ve done it to others. There’s nothing worse than realizing what you should have done when it’s too late. So I guess I’m just putting the message out there for you to take or leave, as you wish. Just remember, some people are worth the effort it takes us to change a few minor things within us to accommodate having them in our life.

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fractal00 said...

Life is all about giving and taking ... when you expect something you should at least give soemthing of equal value ...