Sunday, May 28, 2006

To Sms, or Not to Sms

Following the whole 'friendships' and 'unintentionally hurting others' theme, I am here to admit that I messed up.

I've become so accustomed to technology that I've become completely reliant on sms, email, and chat as a means to stay in touch with people. Never really realized that some people, especially if they're close, don't consider that as an acceptable method! They expect an occasional phone call to ask about their health and how life is treating them.

By the time I'm done with work, done with family obligations, I am so wiped that, most of the time, I don't have it in me to hold a proper conversation. I need some peace and quiet. So friends whom I love, I end up using technology to let them know that I'm thinking of them or asking about them. I never really realized that this is sending them the wrong message until today.

So, if you're one of my friends whom I haven't called recently, please know that it is NOT because I care any less for you, don't think of you, or don't consider you important. I promise to put in more of an effort, if you promise to kick my butt and let me know when I've become distant again.

Friends help us through the roughest of times. Nothing is worth losing them over.

Anyone else have a similar problem?

17 comments:

The Stallion said...

I have the same problem! I don't like talking on the phone anymore! I see it as a hassle!

MSB said...

stallion: good to hear i'm not the only one.. once upon a time i used to be a fone freak - could talk endlessly for hours.

now, i just prefer sending mesgs!! :/

Temetwir said...

a friend who needs reassurance that s/he is still a 'dear friend' should not be held in such high regard

had to say it

MSB said...

temetwir: was waiting for ur comment. i had a feeling it was gonna be along those lines! :)

June said...

:'(

June said...

:'(

ZiZoTiMe said...

Ok I forgive u for not calling me and I'll put your number again in my memory so cheer up :P

MSB said...

zizo: thanks abul-Zooz! I knew a fellow Gemini wouldn't let me down ;)

fractal00 said...

MSB your not alone .. believe me .. after a hard day's work i can barely hold up a conversation myself, i just settle with sending a how was your day, hope you have a nice evening sms or e-mail to friends ... mainly i just try to save up some energy for the weekend so that i can hold a proper conv with friends.

Tantalize said...

Sometimes smsing them is the best way. Verbal dialogue usually is transparent. So it could more of a solution at times than a problem. But I do know what you are going through.

MSB said...

june: why the sad face?

fractal: glad to hear i'm not the only one who resorts to technology to stay in touch! thing is, especially if u have a lot of friends, this is the most convenient and time efficient way to contact them! :)

tantalize: yeah.. but i guess what it boils down to is, not everyone is the same. what works for me, may not work for others.. diff ppl have diff needs/wants.. and i guess it's up to us decide how to handle it.

LaiaLy_q8 said...

me me me

this has foshow (for sure) been a problem with some of my firends who might say just hate the internet

No3iK said...

i think what your saying is that everone have this problem.

friends also need to be understanding, and to kick u once every while, just as a reminder that ur geting distant again.

friends are family, life with out them is just not the same.

:* dont worry im sure ur friends do the same thing to :p ull get to kick ass aswell ;)

MSB said...

laialy: *hugs the internet* the internet is my friend!!!

no3ik: what goes around, comes around ;)

Tantalize said...

MSB: Of course. That's why compromise and its infinite degrees (regardless who its with) is a bitch to cope with.

;^)

A Daydreamer said...

i was like you before, talking on the phone all day and night, but now that i work and go to school full time, i just dont have the time... so emails and sms messeges is all i have to offer for my peeps... ya3nee i still call them, but not all the time, so far no one has complined, so im assuming no one has a problem with it, unless they havent told me yet... well, maybe i should go call a few of them before i go to bed tonight... :)

MSB said...

tantalize: yup! especially when it seems like one party is doing most of the compromising!

daydreamer: lol.. ignorance is bliss sometimes! till that wake up call hits! ;)