Most females dream of their wedding day. They envision this whole romantic fairy tale of how they will meet their knight, how he will sweep her off her feet, how they'll have the most amazing wedding and how they'll live happily ever after. That's just an illusion and that's where the problems first begin!
Men on the other hand, don't necessarily think that way. Some men don't wait till they meet the right one. They live their life until they realize that they're ready to get married. They then look around and find the most suitable available candidate. (Before people jump down my throat, i said SOME.)
Knowing how different men and women are, knowing the culture we live in and how it's evolved (backwards instead of forward, unfortunately) and how people have drifted away from religion, it's no surprise how high the divorce rate is.
One of my friends is currently in the process of a divorce. For the past 4 years she considered her life with her husband as happy. They barely had a couple disagreements over the duration of their relationship, only to have him tell her on their anniversary, "Marrying you was a mistake."
The problem is that men can end a relationship, not necessarily because there's something wrong with the woman. It's not always 'personal'. Women don't understand that though. And what women don't understand, they find hard to accept.
There are no guarantees in life. However, I honestly think we're looking for the wrong things in a partner. People want: open minded, educated, romantic, faithful, and no one says: ekhaf rabbeh, strong ties to his family, respects people!
I'm not here to preach anyone. I would just like to say that we reap what we sow! And if you feel like you're getting the short end of the stick when you haven't done anything wrong, then wakkil amrek li Rabbek o just say: 7asbee Allah wa n3m el Wakeel. Anything else, is just a waste of time and energy. You can't control others, you can only control how you react to what's going on around you.
Men on the other hand, don't necessarily think that way. Some men don't wait till they meet the right one. They live their life until they realize that they're ready to get married. They then look around and find the most suitable available candidate. (Before people jump down my throat, i said SOME.)
Knowing how different men and women are, knowing the culture we live in and how it's evolved (backwards instead of forward, unfortunately) and how people have drifted away from religion, it's no surprise how high the divorce rate is.
One of my friends is currently in the process of a divorce. For the past 4 years she considered her life with her husband as happy. They barely had a couple disagreements over the duration of their relationship, only to have him tell her on their anniversary, "Marrying you was a mistake."
The problem is that men can end a relationship, not necessarily because there's something wrong with the woman. It's not always 'personal'. Women don't understand that though. And what women don't understand, they find hard to accept.
There are no guarantees in life. However, I honestly think we're looking for the wrong things in a partner. People want: open minded, educated, romantic, faithful, and no one says: ekhaf rabbeh, strong ties to his family, respects people!
I'm not here to preach anyone. I would just like to say that we reap what we sow! And if you feel like you're getting the short end of the stick when you haven't done anything wrong, then wakkil amrek li Rabbek o just say: 7asbee Allah wa n3m el Wakeel. Anything else, is just a waste of time and energy. You can't control others, you can only control how you react to what's going on around you.
12 comments:
a7santay.. spoken like a true woman, and NOT a "wanna-be-so-romantic-so-glamourous-so-pinkish-woman"
ولا حول ولا قوة الا بالله العلي العظيم
You’re absolutely right. A lot of women have a pink idea about marriage. They think it’s going out and having fun in you life. NO. As a married woman, it’s not a walk in the park. It’s a tough job. It’s the hardest thing for a woman because she does all the work in a relationship plus the family.
I wish some girls when they get engaged realize that. That’s why the divorce rate is high. Laa 7awlelallah Walah ghewet elallah belallah. It’s so sad to see some marriages collapse.
As always sweetie it’s a great topic. Thanks for sharing with us.
temetwir: Allah E6awil ib 3omrek. I think I'm just being realistic cuz that whole 'pink dreams' thing, is just that.. dreams! That's why people get shocked when they wake up and get a wiff of reality! Oh well, to each his/her own, I guess. Allah Kareem..
laialy: u & me both! But u never know what Allah Katib lech.. so, khair inshAllah (btw, i havent forgotten about my gift. i'm still waiting!) :|
hussa: Thank u, min 6ebtech!!
I agree. Marriage is a responsibility, a job, not a vacation. People just don't take marriage seriously anymore.
nice post >>>>differnt aspect :)
bo_sale7: thank u and welcome! :)
So much talk, so little content. Did anyone stop to think before writing/posting here? Pinkish? It is always pinkish for girls until they hit their nth relationship and realize its not gonna happen! OR when they actually feel the 40s and 50s approaching at warp speed! Everybody talking like they are the wisest on the damn planet. Oh and will people stop throwing God into everything they say just coz it feels right? Islamic IPOD? How many people who visited this blog use it? one? What about porn? millions? People: SHUT UPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP. I'll be back to teach whoever comments a lesson in good manners. SHUT UP. YES YOU SHUT UP!Jesus!
just-woke-up: thank u for ur contradictions and "wisdom". i don't feel the need to respond to ur comment, as it speaks for itself and about u quite clearly. i suggest you DO wake up and realize that ur free to comment if u wish, as long as u do so with respect (regardless of whether u agree with what's said or not.) Should you choose to be disrespectful, your comment will be deleted. Save ur wisdom for ur own site.
msb: nevermind. People like you never get it.
going-to-sleep: thank u for ur judgement. Allah weyak.
just woke up/going to sleep
" So much talk, so little content. "
u said it, and it fits u best LOL
u even had to have 3 words for a nick? u just love to whine and moan abt all the things that u dont understand
the easiest way for u therefore is to dismiss it altogether :)
moving on to the actual post, what u said is just rephrasing whats already been said .. how stupid can u be to talk and not know what ur talking about in the 1st place heh
Just woke up: To begin with, how about you teach yourself about good manners or perhaps you could go preach and teach people about manners in your MCC (Metropolitan Community Church) or wherever - where people might need your talk more. You either present present your view to the author in a respectful manner or take a hike !
Going-to-sleep: Continue sleeping zzzzz....
tem & kjb: thank u gentlemen! ma 3laikom mineh. Some people do enough damage to themselves by just speaking! I think his comments clearly demonstrated that.
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